If we are what we eat, then it follows that we also are what we think. All too often we are quick to go to a negative thought: I’m too fat, I hurt all over, I can’t do that, I’m tired or I’m too busy. We follow it perhaps by dwelling on the negative, playing it over and over in our heads and giving it undue power over our mood. When this happens, all we see is the negative.
Negative thoughts are also a burden. They weigh on us in every sense of the word. Their energy is dense rather than buoyant and thick rather than light. Negative thoughts resonate at a lower level of energy, attracting us to the same slow energy in others, a true example of the law of attraction that “like attracts like.” Sometimes negative thoughts also manifest as a physical burden: weight gain, sullen mood, stress, or a chronic condition. So, what do we do when life hands us a “lemon?” We blame ourselves unjustly for the outcome or our role in it.
When this happens, how about reaching for a mental sugar replacer? A mental sugar replacer is an affirmation with changes our negative thoughts into a positive one. For example, “I am tired today” becomes “I am tired today and I am getting some much needed down time.” Affirmations are a way for us to reprogram our subconscious to create a new reality and thus becomes our mental sugar replacer.
An affirmation is positive belief we have about ourselves in the here and now. Positive thoughts and affirmations support:
- Creating desires
- Increasing energy
- Decreasing stress
- Becoming more mindful
- Improving effectiveness
- Creating a positive facial expression
- Creating health
On the other hand, negative thoughts:
- Disregard our highest desire for ourselves
- Create an image of a negative event, especially if it has not happened yet
- Increase stress
- Decrease effectiveness
Affirmations and Creative Energies.
How does an affirmation differ others forms of thinking and planning such as thoughts, feelings, words, deeds, goals, objectives, mission statements or prayer? Its up to us to decide if there is a difference. As far as the forms of energy, there is no differentiation among any of them. They are all part of the three levels of creation ̶ thought, word and deed.
Creating an affirmation is a multistep process of noticing, using proper words to frame our intention, listening, noticing the outcome and expressing gratitude. Notice the words we use to speak about our self, our self-talk. Carefully wrap the intention with the words that convey that which is desired. Listen for the core beliefs. Let go of doubt and stay open for the answer. We may receive the answer before we even set our intention. It may also come in an unexpected form such as through a conversation with a friend, a book, the morning news or a dream. Embrace the answer with gratitude.
Does your self-talk describe what you desire? Ask yourself if you would you talk to your best friend like you talk to yourself?
Thoughts and the Mind.
Our thoughts and our minds are different. The mind requires the energy of thought to be creative. It is the voice in our head that is based on the facts of linear events that have happened in our lives. Thought is creative energy. Some call it the love-based urging of the Soul. While it is factual, it is also intuitive and non-linear.
Three Creative Energies.
Thought, word and deed are the three creative energies that have the power to create our own reality, one in which we hold positive thoughts. Affirmations require that we be conscious of our thoughts. If our lives are not what we desire, it is because we are thinking, speaking and acting in a manner contrary to what we desire. It creates confusion in our subconscious when we think one thing and then act another. The results are a mixed, making it difficult to create consistency in our lives. This makes it difficult to get it all together. “Get your act together” or “walk the talk” may have very well been coined to remind us to align all our creative energies. The moment we think it we create it; the moment we speak it we create it; and the moment we act, we create it.
Requirements for an affirmation.
For us to set an affirmation in motion that reflects our desire, there are a few requirements. Each must be met:
- Be willing to ask for it. Believe that you are worthy of what you are asking for.
- Desire it with your heart by adding feeling to your intention. Be free of any investment to have power or control over other people.
- Be clear in your thinking. Inconsistencies in thoughts, words and actions create static and confusion.
- Hold your intention to attract it into your life. Keep the creative thought.
- Be passionate about your choice. Act as though what you seek is already yours.
- Release doubts. Doubt creates confusion about your intention. Make your primary thought that which you seek.
- Detach from the outcome
Writing an Affirmation.
A strong affirmation is written in first person, present tense and active voice, stating what we desire to create and not what we wish to change. Our subconscious has no understanding of time. It only knows now. An example affirmation about fat loss, “I steadily make progress toward my normal weight. I achieve a healthy weight for my height and age. I feel energetic, alive and youthful at my healthy weight. I am healthy and no longer have any chronic conditions. This or better for my greatest and highest good. Thank you.”
Erma Bombeck, a columnist, humorist and author, wrote “the words ‘I am’ are potent words. Be careful what you hitch them to. The thing you’re claiming has a way of reaching back and claiming you…”
When writing an affirmation, there are several words to eliminate from our vocabulary: want, wish, should, could, would, have to, will, try, attempt, probably, working on, think, shall, not, but, can, must, help, maybe, and perhaps. The word think is about judgement and ego. The words can, could, shall and will are about the future rather than the present. Should, would, have to, and must eliminate choices. The word want leaves us wanting as the word wish keeps us wishing. If we include the word help in our affirmation, we are saying that we are unable to do this on our own. Instead of help, use the words, guidance or support. Maybe, perhaps, try, and working on imply that we are unable to make a choice and ask our subconscious to choose. This is like playing chance with our dreams. Our subconscious lacks understanding for the word not. The subconscious interprets the statement “that is not me” to “that is me.” Another way to say this is to say what we mean. For example, instead of saying “I do not forget a word of my presentation” state “I am clear in my thoughts, words and actions around my presentation. The presentation comes together quickly.”
End your affirmation with “This or better for the greatest and highest good of all concerned. Thank you” Finally, release doubt and let go of the outcome.
I have used the following affirmation for decades for helping me find lost items. This works 100% of the time. “Thank you for helping me find _________. This or better for the greatest and highest good of all concerned.” After I find what I am looking for, I acknowledge the gift and say, “thank you.” The more I use this affirmation the easier it gets to let go of doubt.
Another of my favorite affirmations is “I am happy, healthy and have more money than I’ll ever need.” I say this affirmation often and follow it by walking the talk doing healthy things such as daily walks outdoors, losing weight, and giving to charities, food pantries and clothing drives.
Antidote for Negative Thoughts.
From time to time, a negative thought will creep into our consciousness. When this happens, be kind to yourself. Say to yourself or out loud, “Stop,” “Clear,” “Cancel,” “No. What I meant to say was…,” or “I misspoke.” Another strategy is to imagine place a big red stop over the image, clap, or snap your fingers.
An exercise in noticing is to put 10-15 pennies in your right pocket at the beginning of the day. Every time you think or say something negative about yourself, move a penny from your right pocket to your left. At the end of the day, how many pennies are in your left pocket? Take 10 min to think over your day and write down each situation where you thought or said something negative about yourself. Repeat the process the next day and notice your positive thoughts.
Negative thoughts are a normal part of life. It’s what we do with them that makes the difference. Add a mental sugar replacer to those negative thought and notice how differently you feel. Writing and speaking what we truly desire allows us to bring forward from our subconscious our design for our best selves and it feels great to be living the best version of ourselves. The Buddha said:
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought.
The mind is everything. What we think we become.
- Walsch, N. (1997). Conversations with God: Book 1 Guidebook, Charlottesville, VA: Hampton Roads Publishing Company, Inc. p.79 ↑